Practice acts of kindness
These should be from the random (let someone ahead of you in traffic) to the systematic (take an elderly neighbour’s garbage in and out). You’ll feel good.
Savour life’s joys
Focus on the smell of a rose or beauty of a sunset. Take a mental photo to remember them when times get tough.
Thank a mentor
Learn to forgive
Let go of anger and resentment by writing a letter of forgiveness to a person who has hurt or wronged you. Forgiving allows you to move on.
Turn off the TV
TV is an electronic drug. Turn it off – even for a short period of time – and you’ll be forced to use your mind or your body in better ways.
Finish what you start
Too many people start this things but don’t get the job done. When others find an excuse to stop ensure you find a reason to keep going.
Some people spend far too much time thinking and far too little time doing. Some people think themselves into stagnation, frustration, exhaustion, anxiety and even illness. Don’t be that person.
Invest emotional dollars wisely
Don’t waste emotional energy on things you can’t control. Focus on what you can and you’ll get a better return on your investment.
Don’t let the past determine your future
Just because you haven’t achieved something so far, doesn’t mean you don’t have the potential – it just means you haven’t. Yet!
Stop being a victim
Too many people allow situations, circumstances, environments and other people to determine the quality of their day. Having a good (or bad) day is not about what happens to us; it’s about how we react.
In our rush to be successful and respected, many of us have forgotten how to laugh. A little strategic silliness and mirth works wonders.
Define success (for you)
If you can’t define it, you don’t have much chance of creating it!
The most generous and selfless people are typically the most happy and fulfilled. Sir Winston Churchill nailed it when he said: “We make a living by what we get but we make a life by what we give”.
Be solution focused
Have you ever noticed how some people seem to be all about the problem? Acknowledge the problem, understand it – and then deal with it.
Don’t let age be in the way
Too many people stop learning, exploring, growing and setting goals simply because they have reached a certain age. Big mistake. Age is not the problem; attitude (about age) is the problem.
Don’t try to change your life by next Tuesday
The more things we try to change at once, the less likely we are to change anything over the long term. Have a long-term goals, but work in short-term (one day, one week, one month) blocks.
Ask the right questions
Rather than asking “why does this always happen to me”,, ask the questions that will put you in a more positive and productive head space. “What can I learn from this experience, situation, event?
Stop waiting for the right time
Some people die waiting for the right time. Don’t be one of them.
Be a more effective communicator
Some people talk a lot but rarely communicate. If that’s you, lift your game.
Have some YN with your YANG
A little balance is a good thing. A lot is better. Too much of anything can be unhealthy.
Be clear about what you do and don`t want for your life (career, relationships, goals, family, education, health). Clarity of purpose creates momentum.
Use your brain
Like your body, your brain needs a regular workout. Read, do crosswords, puzzles and problem-solving games to lift that cerebral fog.
These days, success often comes down to adaptability. If you aren’t prepared to adapt, keep your expectations low.
Start with the end in mind
When it comes to creating our best life (whatever that means for each of us personally), some of us are clueless about where to begin. Sometimes we need to start with the finish in mind and work backwards from there.
Hang out with positive people
It’s true, hang out with idiots and eventually you’ll be one. Some people have a gift for making life hard. Avoid them.
Don’t avoid “HARD”
Many people want the results without the work. But avoid the togh stuff and you’re depriving yourself of an opportunity to grow, learn and improve.
Get a coach or a mentor
Not everyone needs a butt-kicker but for people with a history of “almost” getting the hob done, they can prove a valuable resource.
What you will accomplish in 2009 has got nothing to do with fate, destiny or chance. It has everything to do with your thinking, choices, behaviour, adaptability, perseverance and mental toughness.
Stop being a people pleaser
It’s nice to be nice (to a point) but it’s stupid to be a human doormat. The only person who should be running your life is you.
Don’t play the blame game
Ever notice how some people are in terrible predicaments (physically, financially, professionally, socially) that they played no part in? Accept responsibility for your actions and you might find solutions.
Follow your passion
Write that book. Paint. Travel. Don’t let fear get in the way of what you’d love to do.
Achieve a new goal every day
It might be something huge like going to Alcoholics Anonymous, it might be something like healing a damaged relationship or it could be something simple like going for a 20-minute walk or reducing your chocolate intake by half. Each success will motivate you to try something else.