Know what you want
If you want other people to treat you differently, you need to know how you want to be treated, Figure out what you`d like to change in each relationship and the priorities for assertive action will unfold.
Ask for what you want
After you have figured out how you want to be treated, ask for it.
Keep it short
When you are asking for what you want, be as specific as possible. That way you can hold on to it even in the middle of an emotional conversation.
Don`t be a wimp
Wimps are people who can`t say “NO” to any request, mainly for fear of upsetting someone else. Stand up for yourself.
Take time for yourself
It takes energy to be around other people. Recharge by spending time alone.
A therapist is an objective sounding board who won`t judge. It gives you a chance to brainstorm all sorts of options and vent irrational feelings that friends might not be able to handle.